You like this guy. You felt attracted to him the first time you met. There’s a problem though; he does not seem aware of your existence.
It is truly frustrating to like someone who cannot seem to reciprocate your feelings. Unrequited love has been spoken about since time immemorial. Poems have been written about it and hearts have endured its agony.
Get His Attention
The good news is that, you can get a man to notice you and you need not pull any over-the-top stunts while at it. Little gestures, when executed properly, will go a long way in getting his attention right where you want it. So, what do you need to do in order to get him to notice you?
The first thing that should be on your list of dos is making sure he knows you like him. You may think the guy you like is ignoring you when in fact he is simply clueless. Make it easy for him to discern your affection for him by giving him subtle signals such as an affectionate smile, accidentally’ bumping into him at his favorite coffee shop or even catching his eye once in a while.
The trick is to be subtle about it. Remember you do not want to come off as creepy as this will definitely have him running in the opposite direction.
Flirting Will Get His Attention
While at it, don’t forget to flirt. Of course this should happen after you two have started talking. Flirting shows that you are definitely interested in having him as more than a friend.
Even if he is not available, flirting will get his attention and set the ball rolling. If you are already in a relationship and things have gotten a bit stale and he does not pay you much attention as before, let your inner flirt out. It will heat things up and before you know it, you’ll be getting more attention than you bargained for!
When a woman asks a man for help, it makes him a) notice her and b) feel manly. Men like the idea of rescuing the damsel in distress and being the hero of the story. Give him the ego trip of knowing you need his help.
Something as simple as asking him to open a jar for you will go a long way in making him feel needed and sexy. When a man feels these things, you can be sure he’ll notice you more. Of course, while he is doing all this you should not forget to flirt.
So, you’ve got the guy to notice you live on the same planet, you’re talking a little and flirting and he’s sometimes doing favors for you. What next? At this point, you have laid the foundation for a nice little friendship and possibly more.
Eye Contact Will Get His Attention
You want to continue building on this by letting him know that you really do like him. Look him in the eye when talking to him. Always. When he does something nice for you say thank you’ while looking him in the eye.
Eye contact is a great way to not only get his attention but to earn his trust as well. But please don’t stare longingly in his eyes unless he has precisely asked you out and you are already dating.
Mystery goes a long way in getting him to notice you. Do not tell him everything about you on your first encounter or date. This will leave him with nothing to look forward to. It is never a good idea to put it all out there too early, however much you fancy yourself an open book. Make him anticipate the next tidbit about you and he’ll pay attention.
Give Him Something To Look At
Men are visual creatures, so it has been said over and over. If you want a man to notice you, be it the new guy you just met or your hubby of 20 years, give him something to look at.
Dress sexily, but be careful not to cross the line between sexy and trashy. The trick is to show enough skin to set his imagination on fire but not too much that he’s worried about being seen with you in public. Remember that saying about men wanting a lady in the street but a freak in bed? Well, be a sexy lady but let him have a glimpse of your freaky side. This is guaranteed to catch his attention.
If you are still wondering how to get him to notice you more, here’s another tip: don’t play hard to get. A lot of women make the mistake of playing hard to get because it is what they have been advised to do over the years.
There is no need to pretend that you’re busy when you are not, just so you can avoid him. Nobody is saying that you should be free to hang out every single time he asks but for goodness’ sake, don’t make yourself look too unavailable. This will definitely turn him off.
Also, do not pretend to be someone you are not in order to get him to notice you. Sooner or later, he’ll notice you were putting on appearances and he’ll resent you for stringing him along and wasting his time. And yours as well. Be yourself and he’ll notice you and love you for it.
Build His Confidence
There you have it. It does not matter whether you are single or married, all these tips work perfectly when it comes to attracting the attention of the man you like/love.
Many women believe that men should do the pursuing, so they sit back and wait for the man they like to miraculously pick up non-existent signals from who-knows-where and start pursuing them.
It does not work like that. If you like a guy, send him subtle signals without going overboard. Give him the confidence to pursue you by pursuing him first, gently and classily.
Years down the line when you two are celebrating your anniversary, you will be so glad you took the time to smile at that cutie who worked two floors away from you.
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